The Truth About Healing: It Is Not Always Neat

There is this idea floating around that once you start healing you instantly become grounded, calm, and glowing all the time.

I learned very quickly that this is not how it works.

When I think about where I began, I see a version of myself carrying years of weight. Childhood wounds that shaped me, a father wound that ran deep, and beliefs that told me I was not enough. For a long time, I thought healing would come in and fix me like a broken chair that just needed a little glue.

What I discovered is that healing tears you open before it begins to rebuild you.

Some days it looked like standing in the ruins of who I thought I was. Tears came at random times. I avoided my meditation practice. The same triggers I swore I had outgrown found their way back and knocked the breath out of me.

In the early days I took those moments as a sign I was failing.

I know better now.

Healing is not a finish line. It is alive. It is ongoing. It asks you to peel back layer after layer. It demands shifts and pivots. It breaks old patterns and sometimes it breaks you wide open so you can see what is still raw and what is still waiting to be cared for.

I have released so much. I have softened for my daughters, for my granddaughter, for my marriage, and for myself. But the process has never stopped. Old stories still rise to the surface. New lessons still find me.

Now I see those moments differently. They are not proof that I am not healed. They are reminders that the journey is still happening.

Every trigger is a chance to listen. Every uncomfortable moment is a chance to release what no longer belongs. Every difficult day is another opportunity to come back to myself.

Healing is not neat. It is messy and honest and deeply human.

And if you are sitting in that mess right now wondering if you are doing enough or if you are even moving forward, hear this. You are.

Healing is not about becoming perfect. It is about returning to yourself again and again as many times as it takes.

If this resonates with you and you are looking for support on your own path, this is the work I hold space for at Reviving Roots. Through crystals, reiki, meditation, and deep conversation we untangle what feels heavy and nurture what is ready to grow. Healing is not something you have to do alone. When you are ready, I would be honored to walk beside you.

Rooting for your growth and well-being,

Jamie Lynn