Energy Flows Where Focus Goes…Read That Again.

Let’s cut the fluff. This one’s simple but potent: Energy flows where focus goes, and it has smacked me in the face enough times now that I finally get it.

Whatever the hell you’re focusing on? That’s where all your energy is bleeding out to. Good, bad, ugly, whatever. You obsess about shitty stuff, you're gonna feel like shit. Period. You lean into what lights you up? Your vibe rises, your body chills out, and life starts aligning. Not because of magic, but because your nervous system isn't running from a damn tiger all day.

Here’s a personal gut-punch of a story to show you what I mean.

The Job That Broke Me (Until I Walked the Fuck Away)

I left a job I poured 16 YEARS of my soul into. I once loved it. Busted my ass for it. Made a difference there. But things changed, leadership changed, and that “Fun job” turned into a toxic wasteland. I’m talking straight-up energy-sucking, soul-draining, nervous-system-wrecking hell.

And yeah, I tried to stay positive. I tried the “be the light” shit. But eventually, I was crying before work, stressed out of my damn mind, and realizing that job was undoing years of inner child work and nervous system healing. My body was screaming at me,  and I finally fucking listened.

Quitting was brutal. I felt like I lost part of myself. That place had been my identity. But deep down I knew: This version of me deserves better. I NEED better.

Enter the “Too Good to Be True” Job… That Wasn’t

I almost didn’t apply to the job I have now. Read the listing and thought, “That sounds amazing. So, it’s probably bullshit.” (Hey, classic trauma brain talking.) I ignored the signs the universe was sending. Until one shitty day pushed me over the edge. I rage-scrolled Indeed, and boom, there it was again. That same damn listing.

I applied.

Two weeks later, I had the job.

And guess what? It actually was amazing. Nearly a year later, I’m still loving it. The people are real. The work-life balance is REAL. My nervous system? Thanking me daily. So, here's your reminder: take the fucking chance. Apply. Leap. Try the thing. And stop telling yourself you don’t deserve it. Why the hell not you?

Here’s the Shift That Really Hit Me

A few weeks into my new job, I noticed something weird, my social media feed felt... gross. Why? Because I was still following all this toxic “haha my job is a dumpster fire” content. I used to eat that shit up, because it matched my energy. But now? That content started feeling off. Heavy. It wasn't funny anymore. It was just... sad.

So, I cleaned house. Unfollowed the crap. Started following things that lifted me up, inspired me, or at least didn’t drag me back into the darkness. And holy shit did my mental space shift. Even scrolling, which used to trigger me, became peaceful. (Imagine that.)

Here's the Real Talk You Need

If you're miserable, and you're swimming in miserable content, music, conversations, energy… you’re gonna stay stuck in that vibe. Energy doesn’t lie. And the more we marinate in negative shit, the more we become it.

Think about it, when your kid or your friend says “ugh, I hate hanging out with so-and-so, they’re so negative,” what’s the first thing you say? “Then why the hell are you hanging out with them?” Well, babe, start saying that to YOURSELF.

Why are you giving energy to people, jobs, content, or habits that make you feel like shit? Why are you tolerating energy vampires like it’s normal?

Take Your Fucking Power Back

Energy flows where focus goes. That’s not just a cute saying. That’s law.

You want more peace? Focus on peace. You want more purpose? Focus on passion. You want to stop feeling like shit? Stop feeding shit into your space.

Unfollow the crap. Walk away from the job. Set the boundary. Say no to that draining friend or relationship. Say yes to your own damn sanity. You’re not stuck; you’re just scared. But once you shift your focus, the energy follows. And that’s where the magic starts.

Start living like you mean it. Life’s too damn short to be miserable and too damn beautiful not to go after what you really want.

Rooting for your growth and well-being,

Jamie Lynn